Some Things...
Some things that are bothering me right now.
First of all, my in laws. They have lived in the first floor apartment of our 2 family house at a rent below market rates for more than 2 years now.
They've consistently paid the rent late, slammed doors at all hours of the night and left the front doors unlocked many times. And these are only some examples of how terrible they have been as
tenants.
When they moved in they said they would "help out" and I expected them to help out with minor maintenance around the house like yard work, snow removal and the like but not once have they helped. But they have helped themselves to the use of our gas grill (only buying a tank of gas once - while we've bought 4). They actually offered to split the cost of the new grill I bought last summer but I never saw a dime from them.
We even put the house up and gave some cash for bail when my brother in law (their loser son) was picked up on a drug charge. Not that the asshole ever said thanks or even gave us any money back (none of the relatives that chipped in saw a dime or got a thank you).
We have been honest with them since we decided to sell the house and told them before we even contacted the realtor. But they reacted angrily and yelled and screamed that we were throwing them out. This is despite the fact that they knew we would have at least 60 days once we had a buyer.
Now, we suspect they are moving (to a shitty apartment next door for about $300 more a month) but have yet to even give us notice that they are moving out. We suspect they are moving the first of August since they are painting the rooms and moving things over there.
All I'm saying is that it would have been nice for them to give us some courtesy and let us know in spite everything else that has gone on.
My wife is really pissed and if they do this without notice, it'll be a long time before they see me or our son. I'll never speak to them again for sure.
Labels: anger, assholes, drug dealer, in laws, low lifes, moving, selling the house, wife
Holiday
We made it through the holiday reasonably well.
Friday night we went out to dinner with my Mom, my older sister and my younger sister and her family. Not a bad evening actually but my younger sister just grates on my nerves. She’s so opinionated and
unaccepting of other points of view at times. What really
irked me was that when the check came for dinner, my Mom took out her credit card to pay but nobody else but me gave her money towards the bill. And I paid more than my share.
After dinner my Mom wanted us to come back to her house for cake. My wife and I
couldn't as we had to get the house ready for some prospective buyers that were coming by the next day.
Early Saturday morning, the wife had an appointment for a cat scan to help diagnose some of the health issues she’s experiencing. After that, we went out for our usual Saturday morning breakfast (although a bit later than normal).
Next on our to-do list was grocery shopping – another thing we almost always do on Saturday morning. Something to note here: has anyone else noticed how expensive groceries have gotten recently? I remember being able to get out of the store for less than $100 for a weeks worth of groceries most of the time no less than a year or so ago. Now, I’m lucky if I keep it under $120. This past Saturday, what with buying stuff for a barbecue, my bill was about $160! That is a very good example of how cost of living has inflated across the board.
After we got back from the shopping, it was time to clean the house (another usual Saturday function). We had to do an especially good job since we had prospective buyers coming to look at the house later that day and this week. I think we had 3 large garbage bags of junk we threw out at the end of that process.
The people came to look at the house and were gone by 3:45PM. We chilled out for awhile and then I went out to barbecue a chuck steak for dinner. I used a special seasoning blend I have and a basting at the end with Jack Daniels Steak Sauce. I also grilled some home made garlic bread. All in all, dinner was heavenly.
On Sunday, we slept in a bit late but I went out to get rolls and donuts for breakfast. In my town, that’s a traditional Sunday breakfast thing – we call it “rolls and buns”. Growing up, we almost always had rolls and buns for breakfast on Sunday morning after church.
In the afternoon, we went to Mom’s for a casual barbecue. I was the chef for the day. I grilled some
pre-packaged baby back ribs (Tony
Siragusa’s brand) for an appetizer (they were not bad really – my home made ribs take 4-6 hours to make but are way better). Next was some
Johnsonville bratwurst, hot dogs and hamburgers. As sides, we had coleslaw, potato salad and noodle salad. A pretty good meal if I say so myself. Later, we had some watermelon and toasted some marshmallows. A very enjoyable day.
Monday was busy for a holiday. My son left early with my wife’s Mom to go to NYC to tour the naval ships in for Fleet Week. That left us home alone to get some things done.
We started with running out to do some minor shopping. The wife needed some shorts and I needed sneakers. On the way back, we stopped for some White Castle hamburgers – YUM!
When we got back, we cleaned out our spare room off of the kitchen. Man, we had a mess in there! Six big bags of garbage! And that was only ¾’s of the room since we left the food pantry shelves for later.
After that, the boy came home but went back out with his grandmother to a barbecue. We stayed home to relax.
We put on a movie and chilled out in our gloriously A/C cooled living room. One thing led to another and we were fucking in the bedroom in less than an hour.
Later, I grilled some chicken that I had marinated earlier with a fajita based marinade. It came out great and we had salad and baked potatoes with it.
It’s Thursday now and we had another couple in to look at the house this past Tuesday. They made an offer yesterday that is above our lowest price we’d take but not quite what we expect to get. We instructed the realtor to counter with a price $34k more than what they offered. We’ll see what they come back with but I think I’ll take it if they offer half of that $34k more.
Keep your fingers crossed for me.
Labels: barbecue, food, holiday, house, mom, son, wife
This is the date, time and place.
I have read a number of blogs out there on the
internets that talk about the death of their sex lives with their significant other. Some of them even talk about the date or the event that either ended it or began the end.
I'm marking this date, time and place (Feb 8, 2007 at 12:15PM in our bedroom) that the end has begun.
Let me tell you some back story that sort of goes back to a blog I wrote on before this one. My wife has never been the take charge kind of woman when it comes to sex. She has almost always made/let me initiate it. Even when she initiated it, it was very subtle. A change of clothes to lingerie, cuddling up on the couch; that sort of thing. Never once has she
touched me in a sexual way to start off things. I can't recall more than three times that she ever touched my penis without me putting her hand on it or asking her to touch it or give me head. In fact, my wife has never given me a blow job without me asking for it first. I think the last time she went down on me went like this:
Me: "Baby, please give me a blow job?"
Her: "OK, but don't cum in my mouth." (The same statement she always makes - for the last 12 years of marriage.)
Me: "OK" (The same answer I always give - for the last 12 years of marriage.)
Her:
Grabs my cock in one hand, puts the tip and the first inch or so in her mouth and repeats that a few times for less than five minutes.It's the same way each and every time. The last time was so long ago that I can't remember when it was - at least more than a year ago.
Even still, we had pretty good sex before our son was born and even for a few years after. Then she started having problems with ovarian cysts and abdominal pains about 5 years ago. It turns out that she had
endometriosis and eventually had her uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries removed. Because of all that she had problems with scarring and
adhesions.
During all of this sex was painful for her but she endured it for me (although she did not tell me it was painful until near the end).
After all of the surgeries and recovery, I gave her plenty of time and room to get back to normal if possible. It seemed to me that she did not want to have sex. I turned to the
internet and masturbation for most of my relief. After about six months I tried to talk to her about it and ask her to take a bigger role in sex. I gave her books about how to please a man and her self. I wrote poems to her. I described in great detail what I would like to try with her and things seemed to get better. That process started about 18 months ago. Recently, she does not seem interested in having sex at all. We were up to 2 and 3 times a week and now we're on a roll if it is every other week. We are at three weeks without it now.
Most recently, since I have been home
unemployed, I have hoped that things might change. You know, the wife comes home for lunch and we have a good fuck first. That has yet to happen. And all I get are complaints from her about what I have not done around the house (no thank you's for anything I HAVE done). And I get snide comments about being unemployed.
Today, she's home with a day off and at this moment is laying down napping in the bed. She asked me to join her and I did hoping that something might happen. I cuddled up and spooned behind her. Normally, I would have to make the next move (hand on a tit or something like that) but this time I deliberately did nothing and waited to see what would happen. Snoring - that's what I got.
So mark this date down. Sex is over in our house for us.
I did not believe that I would ever cheat on my wife but I would consider it now.
Don't get me wrong. I love her but I need to have sex and not just the vanilla, basic kind we've been having as of late.
Oh hell, who am I kidding, I'll be spending
alot of time with Mr. Right and Mr. Left in the near future...
Labels: cuddle, end, lack of sex, sex, spooning, wife
Four
It's a pretty good day when you can make your wife cum 4 times in less than an hour just by talking dirty and fingering her.
I'll explain tomorrow but now It's my turn to cum.
Labels: cum, good day, sex, wife
